Accept Yourself…
When I look around, I encounter a lot of people that are unhappy about themselves, physically and/or psycologically. They are complaining that they don´t like their body as it is now, and that they wished that their body is like the perfect body that never existed. The same is true with character and personality, that sometimes people don’t like the way they think or act instinctively upon situations.
This situation of being makes a lot of people unhappy in their lives and what happens is that a lot of people are living outside themselves. The reason why they do this is first of all created by the current way of living, i.e. there are some many things we need to think about that we basically forget ourselves. A second reason is that the person is consciously running away from their inner self so that they don´t have to ‘hate’ themselves.
When I do talk to people, I encounter a lot of people that don’t accept themselves, and are angry with themselves for how they are or for what they have done or not done. They are shamed for themselves. The only way to be able to change something about yourself, is starting from within yourself, and the first task is to accept yourself as you are. This is the fundamental basis for improving yourself. Why?
People want to be perfect, i.e. have the perfect body, have the perfect relationship, have the perfect job, perfect car, etc. For that they are refering to what they see and hear around them. Being perfect is an abstract thing and does not exist, as each one of us has a different definition and view of perfectionism. It is not bad being perfect, not at all, but you need to be perfect to what you find perfect and not what others find perfect. Lot of people let them influence from the outside world to be perfect, and they find out that they never are perfect. And that is due to the fact that they have taken a definition of perfectionism from someone else. You can only grow and become perfect from within, and that means that you first have to accept yourself. What does actually mean ‘Accept myself…’?
You are as you are, a complex combination of flesh, mind, soul, experiences, knowledge, etc.. each one of us is unique, yes you are unique with all the qualities and capabilities you have. Being everything is impossible. Accept that you are the best in what you can do best.
Yes, of course, there are points that you are not satisfied with. But first of all accepting yourself as you are, from there onwards, you can start to undertake the necessary steps to improve yourself. BUT keep in mind that the basis needs to lay within you, and not something that came directly or indirectly from the outside.
You want to change because you want to change for you, not for someone or something else. If you can do this, you are way ahead to become successfull and ‘perfect’ in your own right.
Coach Erwin
http://www.realiseyourdreams.net/
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Unfortunately I have a relative that does nothing else but to put himself down physically. He keeps saying that no one would want him.
Its even gotten to the point where you don’t even try to tell him that he is full of worth anymore because he will just still say the same thing – and you just get tired of trying to convince him otherwise.
Thanks